The Psychologist’s Eros

Ernest Becker [p x, ‘The Denial of Death’, 1973] describes Eros thus= “the urge to the unification of experience ..towards greater meaningfulness”; and= ”the world needs more Eros and less strife. [Eros is] the harmony that unites many different positions.”

Rollo May has traced such Eros in the growing up of the child; Freud’s ‘infantile sexuality’ is a diminished take on it.

Kierkegaard has found Eros in First Love, the timeless moment of falling in love that feels like it cannot end but never lasts, yet bestows a permanent blessing life long..

C.S. Lewis hits on a pervasive theme of Eros, East and West, when he points out that the desire for the Divine Love — really stronger than ‘desire’, more like the German term ‘sehensuch’, implying aching yearning or terrible longing — is so overwhelming that even if unsatisfied, it remains preferred to any other desire which can be satisfied.

Everyone and everything we adore as the Beloved mysteriously partakes in, and symbolically reflects, the God of Eros, whether we realize this or not.